Joel Osteen: Have a Successful Marriage Relationship

Joel Osteen is the Pastor over a congregation that I have heard is over 45,000 people (that can fill up half of the Cowboys stadium).  Alongside of being a Pastor, he is a husband to his wife Victoria Osteen of 25 years and a dad to two children. 
question I would like to ask Pastor Osteen or his wife Victoria if I was to ever meet them is, how do you have time for one another.  I'm sure their time is spent helping others a lot.  I wonder how they have time for family dinner or at night before they get in the bed, I wonder do they even have the energy to listen to each other about how their day was spent.  With the different ministries in their church and the responsibility they have over the church, I'm sure making time for one another is tough. 
Victoria says,
Several years ago when Joel and I assumed leadership of the ministry, our lives became fuller and more complicated.  Oftentimes, we found ourselves moving in different directions, so we had to make an extra effort to connect with each other throughout the day. 
We recognized that if we didn't make the effort, we'll find ourselves breezing right by each other, with our minds preoccupied with the tasks at hand. 
So, to help keep the connection, we decided to acknowledge each other every time we pass.  Sometimes, we high five, sometimes it's a quick "I love you," or a kiss on the lips.  It's not important how we connect, but it is important that we do connect.  We are both busy people during the day, but whenever when see each other, everything else is placed on hold for a moment while we connect. 
Keeping our connections strong, help keeps our hearts moving in the same direction. 
Victoria Osteen also spoke on leaving notes for your husband, which I thought was a great ideal for me to do with my husband and my oldest son.  My oldest son will turning nine November 5 and for the last six months our relationship has not been the best.  I guess it's just me holding on and him not being mama's baby boy anymore. 

So, sometimes in the morning when he is getting ready for school or when he is doing homework in the evening, we bump heads.  I may say something he doesn't like and he may get on my nerves about something.  But for now on, I am going to place little notes in his socks to remind him that even though I am tough on him, I still love him and that will never change. 
I always feel when the media ask these type of questions to Pastors, that they are trying to catch them slipping up.  Like I have never heard one Pastor disagree with scripture and say marriage can be between the same sex.  They always go back to the word of God.  I do feel like people are still searching for the truth, but the truth is the word of God and that never changes. 
 Victoria talks about her experience with leaving notes,
Leaving notes is a wonderful and easy way to keep connections.  When Joel travels without me, I put little notes in his socks just to say "I love you."  (I have also been known to put photos of us in his suitcase).  You may want to leave sweet notes around the house, in a drawer, under the pillow, or on the TV remote just as little reminders to the people you love that they are valuable to you.  
It takes time and effort to maintain those connections in our relationships.  Sometimes, when someone hurts or offends us we can be tempted to disconnect.  But one of the most common mistakes people make in their relationship is to give the other person the silent treatment in an effort to pull back.
Wives submit to your husband, as to The Lord.  (Ephesians 5:22).  Think about it...You submit to The Lord everyday by following His word and you learn to love your husband like Jesus loves the church.  read more on "Husband Quote"  In Our Marriage Everything is 50/50
Everything Victoria shared was a teaching to me and if you are interested in what else she had to say visit her website at Victoria

It seems like Pastor Joel has some things to say about strife and keeping the peace in your marriage.  In this short video, below are a few topics he talks about.  He also talks about things in his own marriage that he had overcome with Victoria. 
  • Peace - You can be the peacemaker and the bigger person.
  • Strife - Arguing over things that don't really matter.
  • Pride - Don't be a know-it-all.
  • Respect and Honor - How do you treat your husband and children in your own home?
  • Break the chains - Don't allow your kids to grow up in that environment.
  • Choose your battles - Listen to that still small voice.
  • Bite your tongue - Let it go, to keep the peace.
  • God will fight your battles - Be the bigger person.
Two Scriptures Joel mentions during this sermon are:

James 3:16 (AMP)  For wherever there is jealousy (envy) and contention (rivalry and selfish ambition), there will also be confusion (unrest, disharmony, rebellion) and all sorts of evil and vile practices.

Proverbs 20:3 (NLT) Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling.
    Victoria Osteen is the Co-Pastor along with her husband Pastor Joel Osteen at Lakewood Church in Houston, Texas. Read Victoria's Bio

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